It's the start of a New Year, and for most of us that means it's time to reflect on the year that has passed and look forward to the year ahead of us. We start to think about our goals, our aspirations and where we would like to be when we stand in this place in 12 months time. So, like most bloggers at this time of year, I thought I'd settle down to write a post about my goals for 2017, and also share a couple of photos of a few of my Christmas presents. But, when I sat down to write this post and talk about my goals it just wasn't something that came naturally to me.
I have things I'd like to achieve this year like everyone else; to grow my blog, to be more healthy, to move into my own flat. But none of those things inspired me enough to feel like I wanted to dedicate a whole post to them. I felt defeated, I felt like a fake. I felt like I wasn't a proper blogger, because I didn't feel inspired or motivated to write what is expected and what I had planned to do. I realised that I was forcing myself into a certain category and into a certain way of doing things. And it was completely unnecessary.
This revelation inspired me to set myself a new goal for 2017, something that I think is truly holding me back in my blogging and in my own happiness. I have set myself the challenge of only writing about things that inspire me and only writing blog posts that come naturally to me. I want to to share things online that are truly me and representative of how I actually feel and the things that inspire me in my own life. It can be easy sometimes to look around online and see what other people are doing and think that you should be doing the same, or questioning why you can't write a post as good as that on that specific topic. These thoughts can become really detrimental to our own writing and our own productivity.
It really is true that comparison is the thief of joy, especially in a creative industry. It can be a hard lesson to learn, but we shouldn't look at others and wonder why we can't be the same as them or do things the way other people are doing things. That isn't something we should strive for in our life, and particularly in our work.
Yes, we can appreciate when people do things well and celebrate their achievements, but we should also recognise that we are all on a different journey. We shouldn't be competing, because as individuals we are all so different, so of course we will do things differently as well. Why would we want to be the same as somebody else? The best person that you can be is yourself. Really this applies not only to blogging and writing, but to all aspects of our lives.
So, for myself, I am going to strive in 2017 to find my own voice, and my own path, when it comes to my blog and my goals. I'd love to hear your thoughts on this, do you find it hard to not compare yourself to others? Perhaps it's something you're aiming to do less in 2017.
Pictured in this post (clockwise from top): Hourglass Ambient Lighting Edit, Spake NK Shimmering Spice Candle, Katie Loxton Pouch, Marc Jacobs Daisy Perfume & The Essex Serpent by Sarah Perry